Coffee and Life

A group of alumni, highly established in their careers, got together to visit their old university professor.

Conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life.

Offering his guests coffee, the professor went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups - porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive, some exquisite - telling them to help themselves to hot coffee.

When all the students had a cup of coffee in hand, the professor said:

"If you noticed, all the nice looking expensive cups were taken up, leaving behind the plain and cheap ones. While it is but normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress.

What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the best cups and were eyeing each other's cups.

Now if life is coffee, then the jobs, money and position in society are the cups. They are just tools to hold and contain Life, but the quality of Life doesn't change. Sometimes, by concentrating only on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee in it."

So, don't let the cups drive you....enjoy the coffee instead.

Sometimes, something are just beyond our control.

Counting down 3 weeks to my official shift in to my new house, so much unforeseen incidents starts to surface one by one; how worst can it get? 1st of all, my FILwas having an affair and not surprisely being caught soon after that. What is worst was him having affair with a married woman, OMG! My hubby already suspected something fishy but I think otherwise when he told me about it, simply because I thought how will anyone of their age still resort to affair???

Well, guess men's sixth sense are accurate too huh. Shortly after my hubby's suspicion, FIL's actions totally let him out and he did admit to it. It's a big big drama till date, now that MIL and the 3rd party's family knew about this, things are becoming more ugly and threatened. Hopefully things will be resolved peacefully soon, with no violence involved (keeping my fingers crossed). These few days, hubby had been really vexed and stressed out not only by this issue.. but for a fact that they might be filing for a divorce lead to - "Where will MIL be staying should the divorce proceeds?" This is my biggest headache too!

For the fact that hubby being the only child, guess we really got no other choices left. The more I think about it, the more depressing and saddening I became, for my dreams gonna be shattered.. I know I'm being very selfish here, only to be thinking for ourselves, I should be more than understanding to empathize with MIL esp with what she'd gone through. But I can't help it but to think selfishly, afterall we have waited so long for our dream home. From 7 months till now, 2 1/2 weeks more to go, only to have such circumstances unpredictably. I told hubby very frankly - 'I'm really not prepared for such' . Expected appalling remarks from him, but only to receive some comforting ones. He think likewise too, and can understand how I felt but he really got no other choices no matter how much he yearn in having a life of our own. He had also been waiting for the completion of our house to be finally freed from his mum's consistent naggings, but only to have it backfired at this timing; he's extremely disappointed too.

We both agreed this is one thing we can't do anything about it; there isn't any other options for us. I have try to convince myself to embrace that fact but I just can't seem to overcome it YET. Hopefully I'm at least 60% over that when the time comes.

What's my future gonna be? Where'll I be?
This is the question I had and will be still waiting to be answered.
Perhaps there're many others out there waiting too.

No one in this world can give us an answer to that, let alone ourselves. Ever hoping to forward time to take a peek how our future lives will be? Will I be a working mother, coming home with my kids hugging around me? Typical housewife looking after my kids 24/7, to get ready dinner once my hubby reaches home? Or modern working mother, always on the run, with no quality time spent with my family? I wonders..

I remembered having watched this movie "Click" a month ago, which kinda touches me with it's very unique style of moral teachings. It's a no wonder people often say Adam Sandler's shows are definitely worth the money. All begins with a remote controller he had always wanted to own - universal remote controller (we term it "all-in-one" in layman's term). He went to a mega electronics mall in search for that; chanced upon the one & only universal remote controller that wasn't even launch in the country - explained the storeman.

"You can practically stop/pause/forward/mute to and at any moment or anything"

It's his impatience & selfishness that led him to such miserable, pathetic ending. In life, we can/always tend to get frustrated / irritated by a lot of various factors; no matter how much you dread to face these, sad to say - it's our life. That's part & parcel of life every single soul will/have to be going through. Yes, how we wish we can skip all of the down/unhappy moments/period but proceed on; you'll be missing out far lot more moments than you can think of.. (it's for you to analyze what you'b missing out)

Time & tide waits for no man; you can never turn back time. Once you'd missed it, you can only have regrets.

But always remember - do reflects but don't regret