Questions you shouldn't ask

1. Why is that no matter what colour bubble bath you use, the bubbles are always white?
2. Why do people constantly return to the refrigerator hoping that something new to eat would have materialized?
3. Why do people keep running over a string with their vacuum cleaner, pick it up, examine it and then put it down to give their vacuum cleaner one more chance?
4. How to those bugs get into closed light fixtures?
5. Why is that whenever you try to catch something that's falling off the table, you always manage to knock something else over?
6. When someone rams our ankle with a shopping cart and then apologises, why do we say
   "It's all right?" Its not, so why don't we say, "That hurts, you idiot?"
7. Why do we wash bath towels? Aren't we clean when we use them? If not, why take a bath?
8. Why do women always ask questiions that have no right answers?
9. Why are the needy only thought of during the holidays? Aren't they just as needy for the rest of the year?
10. IF at first you don't succeed, shouldn't you try doing it like your wife told you to?

:: a food for thought :: (",)

The Past & The Present ?


Is it really me that can't seems to be able to get over the past?? Seriously I don't think it's the past that I havent gotten over but the impact my past has left it's mark on. It started off with a very causal discussion between his friends and me, on MLM business. MLM = 3 most sensitive letters one topic can ever cover on. Everyone including HIM started to comment their views on the level of possible opportunity & result MLM can provide. I'm the only one that is negative about it, I have came across various MLM companies during my previous 3 years as customer service cum operation executive cum marketing exec in another MLM company.


I'm not saying that I'm good in analyzing their business & payout plan but I do have the minimium knowledge of such. For my previous company, I know the inside and out of company history and bonus payout for distributors, we have many our ways to protrait 'good image' & excellent top leading distributors to brainwash their team. MLM is not 100% flopping business to do but it's normally 1st 30% goes to company, next 10% of pioneers who will soar; 60% will be those helping the 40%. Every MLM company patent their own unique payout compensation plan, but it's all about the same theory.


I had my fair share of happiness with my then boyfriend, only to have MLM taking it all away slowly. I was totally against him doing MLM, but he wouldn't listen to my advice. Decided to let him have a shot at it, doing it part time. Gradually he became extensively involved, quitted his stable job, 'invested' more money into it. Initially I'm only giving him 1 year to prove results to me, but that 1 year extended to 1 & 1/2, and finally 2 years. There is absolutely negative results to present to anyone including himself but he just wouldn't give up. These 2 years plus had been such straining period for both of us esp for me. Time, needed care & concern, confidence in our r/s, security were lost in that transition period. I know it'll be hard to build all those back already.


Eventually I gave up and walked out. Lost someone to MLM. Sounds ridiculous? Be in my shoes and you might empathize.


This is one thing I DON'T wish my hubby to get involved in. I do not want to ever go through that kind of transition anymore.... no more! It's painful & disappointing. Thus whenever we talked about MLM, I always sounded more aggressive, just wanting to get my point across to him for him to understand. Am I being selfish? How could I let my past get the better side of my present? I know they are two different person and I shouldn't hang on to my shadow but shadows will always be shadows to follow your back. It's only if YOU want to turn your back to see it.


Hopefully hubbie understands. I meant nothing but well for him.


:: For he ( a man ) will still pursue his own dreams ::

Love nest - Work In Progress

It's the mid week of June and we are still trying to finalize choice of contractors/IDs. Hopefully will be able to confirm one by end of June ! All these are tiring me out but definitely have to go through this process to setup our love-nest ! It's all gonna be worth it!


I learnt quite alot during this process. It's really never easy to setup a home / family on your own, now that I'm in it myself, I truly felt the strain in having to cope with alot of things. My hubbie is a very simple & practical man, where I'm more of a higher expectation, superficial & fussy wife. It's gonna be our home that we're going to live in and of course I expects quite alot how it's going to be and everything. Our initial stage was rough actually, with different opinions how we should maximize our budget, things that we SHOULD and NEED NOT revamp. To be frank, I wanted ALOT. But came to realise it's never gonna be easy if I stick on to my way of thinking - we both will definitely suffer down the road. I do envy those couples whose family sponsored them with a sum of money for renovation or furnishings, b'cos it WILL lighten the load tremendously!


NO.. We're not going to depend on anyone but ourselves. Ya to some may say "serve us right then" or "gek kiang" (act smart in hokkien) but this is our home, we SHOULD do what WE can. Maybe we are both such independent individuals, we'll not accept parents' help. "靠人不如靠自己“ Definitely this is the reason for the straining part. Since we decided on setting up our lovenest, this is going to be it.


Hubbie given me the space to be in charge of the renovation, playing within the budget. Haha, it's tough manz!

For me who initially wanted EVERYTHING to the now me who only am doing essential things. I learnt that "Look forward to things that you can do and not harp on those you can't"

No point straining our financial line down the years just because I wanted EVERYTHING. Most importantly is making this home a cosy place for both of us and yet not tied down with debts. It's all about $$$ after marriage and renovation, there's more to come.

HE has been real nice and compromising enough towards this issue. Leaving it to me to decide alot of things, knowing his simple is my average, my simple is his high standard thus I can never accept his simple. HE said he wanted his 5ft fish tank the day we bought the flat, NOW he has that on hold. I know I have to give way too, forgoing quite a few items that I know I can still live with it. Haha. Fair & square.

This process proved as a learning and motivational stage for us, and we're enjoying it.

It's always about the house every now and then. Ideas, concept, changes, layout, discussion...

Looking forward....

Realised I haven't been updating my blog since my hubby came back. Had been busy almost everyday since...
Attended his best friend's wedding the very next day, it was held at DragonGate Restaurant @ Habourfront. Finally got to wear my new Mango dress for the event, I love it so much because it can be worn simply as a sundress type or a simple, a-just-nice dress for dinner when you match it with nice stiletto heels. Literally only the gfs like us had our stomach to the fill .. haha. YES! (imagine only 4-5 people to eat 10 pax's share)


Took almost 3 days leave to be with my hubbie, it's really nice to have him back! It's been awhile that I haven't had someone teasing me, holding my hands, hugging me real tight. Of course not forgetting his nagging too! Haha
We went to JB for our short getaway the next weekend, stayed at Eden Garden (now known as Zon's Regency). My Redang's trip has been postponed as their available days clashed with hubbie's working schedule, so no choice changed our venue to JB for the time being. It's a very enjoyable, truly relaxing getaway! I guess it's really not about the surrounding but the companion you had. Enjoying the hot bubble bath everyday, the mouthwatering cheap seafood, vast stock of tibits we bought along almost every snacks shop we stopped by, 4 slices of cake (B'cos it's our 4 months anniversary - but it's like celebrating our 1st one) and bottles of red wines (it's really feels like heaven enjoying our red wine in the bath tub), body massage, manicure & pedicure! As what my hubbie says, that trip was purely meant for relaxation.


We treated our stomach to almost anything we saw. Bubble tea, seafood, Lok-Lok, kways, chocolates, Aunt's Anne's preztels..and so on. Made our specs at City Sq, I must really say my praises of Optical 88 for their excellent services! They're the best optical shop I ever been to! They are patient, helpful, attentive & most importantly professional!! I am very impressed with their attitude and service. Oh told my hubbie this is the cheapest specs I ever made, he was so amazed by my comment. Haha but it's true, this S$72 specs compared with my old S$200 one, errmm.. think better don't compare.


Hoping to go Redang soon.... but guess it seems pretty grey to be going this year. (But still keeping my fingers crossed)


- I'm glad u're back