It's the mid week of June and we are still trying to finalize choice of contractors/IDs. Hopefully will be able to confirm one by end of June ! All these are tiring me out but definitely have to go through this process to setup our love-nest ! It's all gonna be worth it!
I learnt quite alot during this process. It's really never easy to setup a home / family on your own, now that I'm in it myself, I truly felt the strain in having to cope with alot of things. My hubbie is a very simple & practical man, where I'm more of a higher expectation, superficial & fussy wife. It's gonna be our home that we're going to live in and of course I expects quite alot how it's going to be and everything. Our initial stage was rough actually, with different opinions how we should maximize our budget, things that we SHOULD and NEED NOT revamp. To be frank, I wanted ALOT. But came to realise it's never gonna be easy if I stick on to my way of thinking - we both will definitely suffer down the road. I do envy those couples whose family sponsored them with a sum of money for renovation or furnishings, b'cos it WILL lighten the load tremendously!
NO.. We're not going to depend on anyone but ourselves. Ya to some may say "serve us right then" or "gek kiang" (act smart in hokkien) but this is our home, we SHOULD do what WE can. Maybe we are both such independent individuals, we'll not accept parents' help. "靠人不如靠自己“ Definitely this is the reason for the straining part. Since we decided on setting up our lovenest, this is going to be it.
Hubbie given me the space to be in charge of the renovation, playing within the budget. Haha, it's tough manz!
For me who initially wanted EVERYTHING to the now me who only am doing essential things. I learnt that "Look forward to things that you can do and not harp on those you can't"
No point straining our financial line down the years just because I wanted EVERYTHING. Most importantly is making this home a cosy place for both of us and yet not tied down with debts. It's all about $$$ after marriage and renovation, there's more to come.
HE has been real nice and compromising enough towards this issue. Leaving it to me to decide alot of things, knowing his simple is my average, my simple is his high standard thus I can never accept his simple. HE said he wanted his 5ft fish tank the day we bought the flat, NOW he has that on hold. I know I have to give way too, forgoing quite a few items that I know I can still live with it. Haha. Fair & square.
This process proved as a learning and motivational stage for us, and we're enjoying it.
It's always about the house every now and then. Ideas, concept, changes, layout, discussion...
Looking forward....
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