Contradiction / Self-denial


Watched "The Oprah Show" last evening and the topic kinda caught my attention - "Unfaithfulness"
Very interesting...


This caucasian couple were married for coming 7 years+ but.. her husband had been unfaithful to her for the past 5 years. She only came to know the truth 2 months back, when he decided to break the news. She said she was heart-broken at that point of time but amazingly she forgave him because she loves him. Oprah Winfrey asked "what makes you want to forgive him?" She replied "I know him too well. I know it's the excitement she (the mistress) gave that had him on but not the person herself. It's all about sexual, that's all." Oprah was stunned by her reply, and probed further "Aren't you not hurt at all?" "If it's all sexual, I'm ok. If they're emotionally attached, that'll hurts! It's nothing personal, the problem lies in him!"


Oprah exclaimed "U mean it's nothing personal??? I think it's very personal!!"


Oprah asked "Aren't you least aware or sensed something is wrong? Because the affair was carried out for 5yrs?"


She replied "I can tell everyone out there, I never ever doubted my husband or to think that he'll be doing that behind my back 5 years ago. I trusted him. Everything was perfect to me. I cannot even sense a bit wrong with my marriage... "


When Oprah asked him if he felt for his mistress " Erm, yes I do. It's not just about sexual, it does involved emotions in it too. " Oprah : "Do you think you'll have another affair again, base on right timing, right atmosphere?" He paused for awhile and nodded his head " Yes, I think so. I can't guarantee I won't."


WTF !!! I wonder why do humans need to be so frank at times? The truth DO hurts.


She explained "I know I have to be blame too. For the past few years, it's all about work and children to me, I was never involved in his life. All I thought was to give him a better life, that's all. Different people have different hopes & givings. For me, I wanted the best for him. "


Gail Saltz, author of "Becoming Real" shook her heard & told her "You're in such huge denial.. trying to hide all his flaws. You'll only bring yourself to suffer for all I see if that he'll rebounce back."


She explained "Maybe I'm in denial. But I'll not forget the vows we took and will keep on trying to salvage this marriage till the day comes when I've to go down to the lawyer's firm to file for divorce."


WOW! I am stunningly amazed by the nobleness or should it be sillyness of this woman.


True love is about sarcifice; being able to sarcifice up something for the most you loves and treasure most.


Love is never selfish.