Expectations, leave it or hold it?

"Expectations can make you or break you. To be happy, find your balance"

Expectations are meant to make you a stronger person with goals to pursue in life, but it always backfires if one doesnt perform the expectations out well. It's found in all areas of life, Family expects you do well in studies, expects you to behave as a well-mannered child always. Work expects you with high performance level, you got to use your initiative & brain ahead of everything, your boss expects you to be his stomach worm, know exactly what he wants/means. Love expects you to give your all without expecting more in return, expects a girlfriend who obliges to anything, expects you to have the same thinking & frequency as him. If you're throwing tantrums, you have an attitude. If he's throwing his, he got his reasons. Friends expects you to be unbiased towards them, expects you to understand their sudden change in behaviour because you known them long enough.

But I must say that Friends expects the least, and thereby one of the reasons, why we always pour out our thoughts to them, find them when we're feeling down. Someone said this "Friends are not going to stay by for life, but your loved ones will be walking down the long road with you for the rest of your life" Yes, it's indeed true, but how can we simply cast aside those times when they are there when you needed someone badly? When you had a heated arugment with your loved ones? When you wanted some advises on which dress looks good on you? When you wanted someone to window-shop with?

Suddenly thought of this conversation, guy E was sharing his reason why he broke off with his gf - "Different frequency" Though I do not know guy E's gf well but I feel it was a lame and open reason. How will you define frequency? No 2 humans are the same, nor do they share the same brainwave, so why can't accept the differences? Yes, the girl is 5yrs his junior, but he should know and pre-empt this "differences in frequency" the day he ask that question. I feel that instead of trying to accept that person for who they are, you're calling it quits, it's simply avoiding.

"He/she is who he/she is, why change them?"

"Humans are creatures of contradiction" ~ not just women